Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Commentary: Heaven Help the "Marginally Attractive Man"

By Aaron Clarey

Allow the Captain to regale you with a tale.

Many years ago, when the Captain was a younger, but competent lieutenant, he fancied himself quite the catch.  He had a daytime job that paid moderately well, moonlighted as a ballroom dance instructor, was a property owner, and had no student loans because he worked through college.  He was not the latest or the greatest, but he was certainly smarter than the average bear.  And his dating record proved it.

However, while his dating record was exemplary, his bang record was not.  Especially given the volume of dates he had.  The vast majority of dates would not be followed by a second, and what few made it past the first date rarely made it to the third.  And if the Captain were to go back into the archives and calculate the percentages, the "Percent Banged of Total Dated" was probably well below the industrial average.  And the Captain at the time didn't quite know why.

Fast forward today, and add the retro-spective wisdom of teh interwebz, and it's pretty obvious why the Captain would have great success in dating, but marginal success with banging - he was cursed with being a "Marginally Attractive Man."  No doubt about it, the Ole Captain IS a good-looking man.  Back in the day "HotOrNot" rated him regularly above an 8.  But the problem with such sites is it just considers your face.  It does not consider something even more important to women - your height.  And here the Captain failed (by no fault of his own) miserably.  He is a mere 5'9".  And women don't like men who are only 5'9".

This would explain the vast majority of dating phenomenon in both the Captain's and other "Marginally Attractive Men's" pasts.  Sure, we'd land some dates, but few would be followed by a sequel.  Yes, we'd nail some chicks, but you'd ne'er hear from them again.  And I'm sure many of you shorter gentlemen have no shortage of stories where you and a taller girl were getting along swimmingly, perhaps even enroute to a more committed relationship, but in the end she would either go ghost on you or just give you a standard "I'm not ready for a relationship" response, in spite of your great chemistry together.  Yes, it is tough being a"Marginally Attractive Man."

However, there may be a bit more science to being a "Marginally Attractive Man" and it comes from the embarrassingly exposing data that OK Cupid is known for - Women's horrendously and laughably skewed perception of male attractiveness.

Though the original article was purged from the internet (because we can't be letting the men know the embarrassing reality of female nature), reddit thankfully has it archived so you boys can see the reality you are facing.  And whereas we can speculate about "why" women are this way, as I like to say "The why doesn't matter.  All that matters is what is."

Women have a horrendously skewed, flawed, erroneous and delusional view of male attractiveness.  Whereas men have an objective and statistically normal, real world view of female attractiveness.  to men, the majority of women are "average" with fewer and fewer people on the uglier and prettier sides of the spectrum the further out you get.  Women, however, consider 80% of men BELOW AVERAGE, when by statistical and mathematical reality ONLY HALF CAN BE BELOW AVERAGE.

Again, delusion.
Again, "WTF????"
Again, "Do you women hear yourselves???"

But, "it is what is."

It is here we "Marginally Attractive Men" must take a lesson from Adam Piggott and realize there are HUGE ramifications for this skewed view of male attractiveness. For in one of his podcast episodes he expounded on the risks associated with being a "marginally attractive man."  More specifically, he explained that if you are REALLY ugly, you know you are and therefore do not put forth any precious effort, labor, time, and resources chasing women you can't get.  Additionally, just as if you're very attractive, you don't have to put forth as much time, labor, energy, and resources into chasing women as they're throwing themselves at you.  But if you're marginally attractive, then heaven help you because you're in a "kill zone" of sorts where sporadic, irregular, and inconsistent successes condemn you to invest more and more of your time and resources into getting women that you're statistically not likely to get.  And this then makes it a vital economics lesson.

Mock them all you want the MGTOW's/VirginTOW's/Incels/TFL'ers are NOT wasting their time chasing women they can't get.  Yes, they may be wasting their time obsessing and hating on women they can't get, but they're not actually wasting their time chasing them.  This frees up inordinate amounts of time and resources they could repurpose and reinvest in other endeavors that will improve their lives - working out, their careers, their educations, fun, home maintenance, auto maintenance, traveling/reconnaissance, etc.

On the other side of the looks spectrum you have the few top dogs and alpha males that women "graciously" deem "better than average."  I know statistically speaking this is 20%, but even 20% may not be high enough given women's hypergamous genetic programming.  I'd argue you'd need to be top 10%.  Regardless of the actual number, once you reach this "magical percentage threshhold" women WILL throw themselves at you.  I've witnessed this many times with a good friend of mine who is hands down a 10. Women will literally walk up to him and ask him to take them home.  We were hiking one time and a girl propositioned him right there on the hiking trail.  Admittedly, he puts a lot of effort into his physique, but it's a phenomenon very similar to a job hunt and majoring in engineering.  If you're willing to put forth the effort into getting a hard degree, the rest of the world does the work for you in landing a job.  And if you're willing to spend a couple hours at the gym, women will beat a path to your doorstep, even tying a cute little red bow to their vaginas as they present it to you as a gift.  That larger point is that the time/labor/resource savings are IMMENSE if you are a top 10% good looking guy.  Women do all the work for you, you don't have to lift a finger (though you do have to lift the weights).  

But if you're a 6.5 or a 7.5, or you're a solid 9, but 5'7" you are in for a world of hell.  Because you are neither too ugly to give up on women, nor are you too good looking that they beat a path to your door.  This condemns you to expend inordinate amounts of labor and resources chasing girls.

Yes you can get a girl...you just have to spend month's worth of Saturday nights at loud, drunk, night clubs.

Yes you can get a girl...you just have to date a score of them and hope they're adequately drunk to lower their skewed standards to "normal" so you might get laid one time.  

Yes you can get a girl...but you need to spend cumulatively years on social media swiping left or running "facebook game."

When you add it up, especially when you are younger, the amount of time, labor, resources, and plain ole life marginally attractive men waste on women is enough to pay for a house, earn a doctoral degree, travel the world, and/or learn a whole host of skills and trades that would improve your future immeasurably better.  It is the most compelling argument for prostitution if there ever was one, but unfortunately, genetics (not to mention the law) compel most young "marginally attractive men" to waste their most precious youth and time in chasing tail that "might" reward them. 

The solution for Marginally Attractive Men is to choose one and commit to it.  You either are a 7.5 who could turn into a 9.5 if you dedicated yourself to becoming ripped, or you are a 7.5, already ARE ripped, and no further improvement is possible, so you might as well hang it up, go traditional-MGTOW and pursue your own personal interests.  But whatever you do, do not indecisively sit in the middle of the train tracks, wasting your finite and precious life chasing tail with only a modicum percent chance of success.  Your life is too valuable, you are too valuable, and your time can be invested in things with much higher rates of return. Though, remember, a monthly flight to Amsterdam or Las Vegas is infinitely cheaper than years worth of chasing tail you may or may not get.

Editor's note: This article was originally published at Captain Capitalism and has been rerun with permission.

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