Friday, January 26, 2018
Book Review: 'The Smart Couple Quote Book' by Jayson Gaddis
Author Jayson Gaddis is on a mission as a relationship student and teacher. His influence s widely felt through his Smart Couple Podcast and as founder of The Relationship School to teach people how to do intimate relationships'. As he states, my “story” is relevant here because relationship was THE factor that got me to wake up out of the fog and the trance I was in to see a deeper path to my life. And, relationship is what this website is about. Relationship pain was the thorn in my side that had me seek out help. When my sixth or seventh relationship failed, I finally asked “what if I’m the problem?” It was relationship pain that cut through my habits and strategies and had me finally self-reflect deeper than I ever had before. In that moment I was able to consider a new perspective—that my challenges pointed back to me. That moment was empowering because I began the transition from blame to responsibility. Wait, if it was no longer “her fault” and instead something was going on in me, and if the source of my relationship issues was living in ME, well, I had some work to do and things to uncover and discover. The adventure had begun.’ His credentials are most impressive.
In his Introduction he presents his précis – ‘This is not a traditional relationship book that attempts to walk you through a step-by-step process to get a great marriage. Rather, it’s a book about the trials, tribulations, and triumphs of partnership. It’s a book designed to inspire you to go deeper—alone and together. Just by reading a quote or flipping to a random page, you will be challenged, confronted, and inspired to tweak how you see and how you approach your intimate relationships. In doing so, you move closer and closer to what you want, which, hopefully, is a deeply fulfilling partnership over time. My aim is to get you to be more honest with yourself. To take a deeper look inside your mind and your heart. To examine whatever’s been “sold” to you about intimacy and love. In this book, I will challenge you to think differently and more importantly, act differently. This little book will help you move from being a victim to becoming an author of your life and your relationships.’
Jason’s approach: a series of quotes, easy to remember because they make an imprint. Some examples follow: ‘Your partner is merely a doorway into a deeper reality of how you experience yourself.’ ‘There's only one place to work out our relationship issues—in relationship.’
‘A big source of human suffering: expecting our partners to be someone they are not, or expecting ourselves to be someone we are not.’ ‘The more you risk exposing your messy and dirty self to your partner, the more you will reap the flowers that grow out of that same dirty messiness.’
‘If you sit on the sidelines and complain about the relationship pain you’re in and then look to someone else to alleviate that pain, you won’t get anywhere. Best to face the person in the mirror.’ ‘The degree to which I trust others is the degree to which I trust myself.‘
It is a different way to convey a subject – and a fine one! Solid information here. Grady Harp, December 17
This book is free to borrow from Kindle Unlimited.
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